Do you feel stuck & wish to take charge of your life?
Is your life rolling in a never-ending circle?
Are you trapped in the vicious cycle of frustration?
With such thoughts in your head, you surely would like to be dragged out of this not-so-pleasing situation.
However, let me be honest with you — you are the only one who can pull yourself out of this cycle. Well, yes, I’m here to give you a direction. But you’re the only one who has to hold the string of your life.
And I’m assuming that you’ve decided to take charge of life. So, let’s march forward and unravel the steps that you need to take in order to live the life that you’ve imagined for yourself.
How do I take charge of life?
Okay, tell me — What happens when nothing goes right in your life?
You lose control over everything that turns up in your way. Isn’t it? You feel that there is no progress and that life has come to a standstill.
However, no matter what is happening in your life currently and what circumstances you’re in, you definitely can sail through and take back control of your life.
So, with these simple yet effective 7 steps, you’ll find out how to get your life back on track.
1. Take Responsibility for your actions
The first step to taking charge of your life and developing a healthier self is to learn to be accountable for your own actions. Personal responsibility is an attribute of a strong person.
Wherever you’re in your life right now, it’s all because of you! It’s completely absurd to blame others for all the wrong things that happen in your life. So, this is your life! And you’re the only one who is responsible for all the good and the bad bits.
What happens when you play a blame game?
If you start blaming others for the circumstances, you give control of your life to others. Think about it! When you put blame on someone, you simply shift the responsibility to the other person and by doing this, you deprive yourself of the opportunity of finding a solution.
People don’t get a chance to improve if they constantly blame others for problems in their lives.
When you learn to be accountable for your actions, you start progressing toward a better future.
So, take responsibility for your every action here and now. It will help to build your value and transform you into a mature and wise person.
2. Have clear goals
Do you chop vegetables without deciding on the menu for lunch? Of course, you don’t. Right? First, you decide what you would be preparing for lunch and then you select and chop your vegetables accordingly.
So, why do you keep living a directionless life? Without a clear goal, you wouldn’t know where you’re heading to.
Setting goals is an incredible habit that you should adopt in order to create a purposeful life. Every day comes with new energy and enthusiasm for people who have clear goals. If you had set goals earlier, you would definitely understand my point here.
However, the real question is — how to set the right goal.
For example, if your goal is: “start my own business”. It’s more likely that you won’t be able to get started as your goal lacks clarity and it’s simply vague in terms of execution. Instead, your goal should be something like this: “start my own business by April 2023”.
When you set your goals this way, you experience a different thrill. Magic happens! And as a result, you are always excited to work in the direction of your goal.
3. Confidence is everything!
Have you ever thought about why some average people are more successful than some highly intelligent ones?
The primary reason is that they believe in themselves and they’re confident about their ways.
Thus, a confident person knows the art to turn every obstacle that comes his way into an opportunity.
4. Money is definitely a game-changer
Money can’t buy happiness, but it will certainly get you a better class of memories.” – Ronald Reagan
Focus on your finances. Yes! Financial freedom is one of the ways that can help you take control of your life as it plays a vital role in boosting your confidence.
Do you have a job? No? Okay! Find one. Start with whatever comes your way and you yourself will see how confident and liberated you feel.
Are you satisfied with your current income? No? Find some ways to improve your finances — maybe do some freelancing, invest your money somewhere, or find a better opportunity.
5. All you have is now!
Practice living in the moment. You need to accept that life is not about grappling with your past or being anxious about the future. It is more about moving forward and taking ownership.
Sometimes, we never take action and continue living a meaningless life. We do not want to change our lives because we feel that we have already wasted a lot of time.
You need to understand that there is nothing like wasted time. It’s just a matter of one decision. The moment you decide to change your life for the better and focus only on the present, you will free yourself from the chains of sadness, frustration, and anxiety.
In fact, we all are either caught up in the webs of past memories or in the fantasies of the future. We rarely enjoy the present. Isn’t it?
So, start living in the present and see how effortless your life becomes.
6. Tap into your curiosity
Curiosity is not only a trait of intellectuals but it also has emotional and psychological benefits. As per a study, curious people are much happier and have active brains.
Have you seen how children are always curious about their surroundings? If you observe them closely, you would notice that they have positive emotions and a dynamic aura.
So, go back to your childhood and try to cultivate a sense of curiosity about everything around you. You would be amazed by the level of excitement and opportunities that curiosity will fetch into your life.
7. Control your mind
Once you learn to hold the reins of your thoughts, you’ll be able to take charge of your life. When your thoughts are in your control, you achieve personal freedom which is one of the precious gifts in today’s world.
You should train your brain to change your focus from negative thoughts to an optimistic approach.
For instance, if you’re feeling stressed, you should consider thinking — about ‘how to feel relaxed’ instead of ‘how to avoid stress’.
Use empowering words in your thoughts! And you would be surprised to see how your actions become full of beans.
Key Takeaways
- Free yourself from limiting beliefs and negative thoughts;
- Pay attention to what happens inside your head;
- Focus on solutions, not on problems.
- Align your thoughts with your actions.
Meditation can be a useful tool to help you learn to control your mind. However, if you want quick results, consider booking a session with a certified NLP practitioner. He or she can teach you how to take control of your beliefs and how to make your good feelings stronger.
Remember….
The past is over. The present is here. And the future is what you make it.
Also Read: Ikigai – Find your purpose in Life!
